As the holiday season approaches, Pathways to Resilience recognizes that this time looks different for everyone. While holidays may be joyous occasions with loved ones, this is not always the case. Complex family dynamics, historical trauma, loss of family members, and varying family values can contribute to stress, on top of travel, pressure to participate in social events, disrupted routines, and expenses. We encourage you to let go of unrealistic expectations and know that if you are feeling nervous or anxious about the upcoming holidays, you’re not alone: sixty-four percent of people report feeling “holiday blues” at some point throughout this time. Consider the following tips as you navigate the season this year.

“Holidays are idealized as times of celebration. They are embedded in cultural symbols, family patterns, and lived experience. Because all holidays are not good times, however, the lived experience of holidays is considerably more complex than its symbolization.”  –  Mary Jo Deegan, Journal of Sociology & Social Welfare 

1. Prioritize your own well being.

While spending time with loved ones can be an important way to support mental health, taking care of yourself may make any unforeseen stressors more manageable. Be mindful of how changes to your sleep schedule and eating habits will affect you. Take caution with alcohol consumption, which increases for many during this time. During social events, give yourself breaks to rest and reset, even if it’s only a few minutes. Developing a mindfulness and meditation practice is a great strategy for emotional regulation, but even taking a moment of quiet when feeling overwhelmed can go a long way. And of course, don’t be afraid to seek additional support if you need it.

2. Remember there is no “right way” to celebrate.

The holiday season can come with a lot of expectations and commitments to others. Take time to define your boundaries and recognize how your mind and body may react to different stressors. For example, if returning to a specific area in your hometown or watching a certain movie brings up negative memories or feelings for you, consider avoiding it altogether. Try creating new rituals and traditions that are meaningful to you.

3. Embrace what feels meaningful to you.

The holidays can be a great opportunity to reflect on the positive things in your life and connect with those you care about. Try to make time for joy, play, and nostalgia. Consider mailing a holiday card or sending a text to a friend you haven’t spoken with in a while. Make a list of things in your life you are grateful for, either alone or with others, and consider incorporating a gratefulness practice as a daily or weekly ritual. Giving back to others – through volunteer work, charitable donations, or just thoughtful gift giving – can also provide purpose and meaning to this time.

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